News Articles - Build Child Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem

Children need self-confidence and self-esteem to do well and become resilient to succeed in life. Praising them is a very effective behavior management tool than criticism, scolding and punishment. It teaches them what they should be doing, instead of telling them what they shouldn't do.

Children are unable to differentiate between positive and negative behaviors until and unless the adult pointed out to them. Children naturally do what they feel will get them the most attention from their parents, irregardless of bad behavior.

Whether to cross words, scolding and telling them off or having moments of love, smiles and praise and plenty of hugs, depends very much on the parents preference in the end.

Below a practical guide on praising for building a child self-confidence and self-esteem.

• Be Specific: Let the child know the type of behavior you like and let them know you have noticed that behavior. They will likely repeat the positive action;

   

• Be Personal: Make your praise more personal, instead of "You draw well", say "I love your drawing";

   

• Be Happy and Truthful: Children are able to read our tone and our body language instinctively. A friendly and pleasing tone coupled with smiles will convince the child of your praises. A harsh tone can scare them away from taking the praises in;

   

• Have Eyeball Communication: Children loves real interaction and undivided attention than verbal praises. It means sincerity and

   

• Have Physical Contact: Praises coupled with lots of hugs and kisses to the child convey the seriousness and sincerity of your message; and

   

• Repeat: Constantly look out for the behaviors you love, slow down and acknowledge them. The child will love you for it, but you will love the changes it brings in them.

It's going to be tough if the child do not have a lot to be praised.

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